How to tell your spouse you have over a million invested
25 August 2022
Bit of a odd question here but, I’m in a fairly new relationship (just ticked over six months together) and the topic of finance and investing has come up a few times.
I want to gently encourage her to begin regular investing, we set up her Pearler account (yet to engage auto invest *sigh*) and I’m not sure when the best time to talk about *my* portfolio is.
I set up my investing for a long time frame, but have been thinking about using some of my shares to buy (and pay off) a small acreage with the idea of that’s where I’d like to settle down and raise kids.
I met her maybe six months after ‘FIRE-ing’ and have told her I vaguely have an online blogging business that I work on every now and then, and she enjoys the more relaxed lifestyle pace. she is about to graduate her Post grad degree and works in medicine so I expect next year her workload to increase… unless we end up with a baby on the way 😅🤰
We are on the same page about eventually wanting a family and she likes the idea of the property. She also comes from a very wealthy family (that live overseas), but I kinda feel like being from a wealthy family she’s not that phased by money or investing.
I want to gently encourage her to start long term investing so when I do talk about it with her, she understands the investments are one of the main income sources for early retirement.
She knows I’m into investing but doesn’t know the extent of having several million dollars in various investments (shares, ETFs, property, superannuation, websites) and I’m a bit scared to reveal the situation lest it change our relationship somehow?
Any advice? Anyone been in a similar situation with family or partners?
For the record my family also does not know about my investments